Here’s How Fun Got in the Way of Real Happiness.
During my research on happiness I had a huge wake up call. For years I had been confusing happiness with fun. “Crazy-busy” was my standard answer whenever anyone asked me how I had been. I was constantly running around with an extremely full social calendar and unable to ever say “no” to anything. I would have shown up to the opening of an envelope! I eventually discovered that my search for fun was making me unhappy and was a generator of stress and anxiety. I was nursing hangovers, not getting enough sleep and eating on the go. I would rather party than stay home and practice music or visit with my family. I was selfish and lonely. My addiction to fun caused me to spend money on unnecessary items that added on to my growing pile of belongings that bogged me down. I was distracting myself from the work and effort involved in becoming happy with excitement, thrills and good times.
Fun enhances life for those already happy. But for the unhappy, it’s a diversion from their unhappiness. http://meanttobehappy.com
I decided instead of chasing after cheap thrills I would find out what makes people in the world truly happy and get to work.
Components of Happiness for All:
- Money – Rich people are not any happier than middle class people, however poverty can be a great cause for stress and unhappiness.
- Social Bonding – Belonging to a club or organization with other like-minded people with a common goal or belief.
- Flow – Activities that create a Zen like state. This could include playing an instrument, juggling or being a great bartender.
- Sleep – Regular sleep and naps.
- Strong relationships – Taking time to nurture intimate relationships.
- Compassion – Selfless acts for the benefit of others. Living for something that is bigger than one’s self.
- Gratitude – Practicing Gratitude.
I am working on reaching a balance of fun and happiness. I am no longer worried about making an appearance at every party or event. I am happy to stay home and write, read or play with my instruments. I try to unplug and not be addicted to my electronic devices, enjoying moments of quiet and dare I say a little bit of boredom once in a while. I am at peace with my home not being perfectly decorated and spending New Years Eve just hanging out. Some people may say that I am not as fun as I used to be, however I am so much happier.
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