If You Feel Stuck, Then Stop Agreeing to Everything!

If you are tired of being stuck in a rut and living a life that you didn’t agree to, then it’s time to get off the pot and try one or all of these seven ideas to unstick your life.

“If you’re stuck in the past, you go forward in reverse”
― Josh Stern,

Situations that people feel stuck in:

  • Dead-End Job
  • Overdue Break-upStuck
  • Creative Block
  • Health issue(s)
  • Loneliness
  • Greif
  • Self-Esteem
  • Financial situations

Most people go through their daily lives on auto-pilot. They do the same thing day after day, and week after week and month after month. They settle for what they have, even if it’s not what makes them happy. Sometimes they never even find out what makes them happy. They have agreed to a life that society expects.

Some things that society expects of us.

  • Go to school and get a good job
  • Retire at the age of 65
  • Get married and have kids
  • Work at a respectable company with a 401 K
  • Vacation twice a year
  • Live for the weekends
  • Save money to send your kids to college
  • Dress appropriately
  • Fill your home with the best you can afford
  • Celebrate holidays like everyone else

“The Four Agreements” is a book where Miguel Ruiz talks about how we have all agreed to things that we really did not have a choice to believe in. Ruiz says, “Before we are born the humans before us created a big outside dream that we all call society’s dream. The dream of the planet is the collective dream of billions of smaller personal dreams, which together create a dream of a family, a dream of a community and a dream of a city, a dream of a country, and finally a dream of the whole humanity. The dream of the planet includes all of society’s rules, it’s beliefs, it’s laws, it’s religions, it’s different cultures and ways to be, it’s governments, schools, social events and holidays.“

Do you ever remember agreeing to any of this? There is a good reason that some of us feel stuck … Because we never chose our lives to begin with. We are living lives based on belief systems that were created for us, by our parents and the society that influenced them.

Life just happens, and you get up and do what you were supposed to do. You do not have to continue in the rat race.  You have the choice to design your own life.  There are ways for you to unstick our life.

Ways to Unstick Your Life:

Instead of Making More Money, Need Less Money – Work hard at not working so hard. The less you need the less you have to work in a job you do not like. Cancel your cable.

Minimize – Stop Shopping, and get rid of everything that does not bring you joy. You work hard to buy things that end up bringing you down in the end. You spend more time moving them, repairing them, cleaning them, deciding between them. Just let go of them and you will find the space you need for a more meaningful life.

Get out of Debt – You can sell your stuff to help! Ask people who are good with money to help you with your finances.  Try Quicken for monthly budgeting.

Less is More – Give yourself less choices: Minimize your closet.  Try Project 333 at http://theproject333.com.  Minimize your menu. Try project 333 in the kitchen too at http://theproject333.com/kitchen/.  Less choice equals less hassle and gives you more time for bigger things.

Always do your Best – If you are always doing your best, whether you are being rewarded or not, you can learn to enjoy more. You will learn to take pride in yourself, and others will see it too. Always doing your best whether you are flipping burgers or trying to make a relationship work can only provide the best possible outcome without residual shame or guilt. You can read more on doing your best here: http://www.toltecspirit.com.

Be Awesome to Everybody – I started saying this mantra on a daily basis when my customers were driving me crazy. I try to keep it in my mind at all times. You can really change many experiences for the better by remembering these four words.  Even when someone cuts you off in traffic.

Change your State – Get happy by changing the way you are sitting, standing or acting. Have a dance party, or take a long walk. See some state changing activities here.  www.livebigandsmall.com

The pressure to do what you should be doing will be replaced with the excitement of what you are doing.20140510-IMG_1131

When you begin to make these types of adjustments, good things happen. The pressure to do what you should be doing will be replaced with the excitement of what you are doing. You may not want to drop out of society completely (I still love the Macy’s Day Parade and being married), however you do not have to worry about what anyone thinks once you feel secure in your own skin and know that you have agreed to live the unsticky life that you have designed yourself.

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5 thoughts on “If You Feel Stuck, Then Stop Agreeing to Everything!

  1. Great tips Pippy! I find that most people who feel stuck, once they make the effort to unstick themselves, find that they were always free. It is our imagination working against us, not for us.

  2. I’ll have to try the Project 333! I have done the 3 things clean-up (1 bag for keep, 1 bag for donate, 1 bag for throw away) where everything has to go into those bags or boxes and then you can clean, take the items out of the keep bag and reorganize. It has been awhile though, so I will look forward to trying something new! 🙂 Thank you for sharing the info!

    • It sounds like you are on the right track already! I have not made it down to 33 items, YET, however I am still aiming for that. My closet is less than 1/3 full now. I can now get ready in 20 minutes or less as it only takes about two minutes to pick out my clothes. I am becoming very comfortable creating my modular wardrobe with my favorite pieces that look great on me, and I am still working hard for a “Garanimal” style wardrobe for adults. I will post more about my experiences with Project 333 in later posts. Good luck with the de-cluttering and please let me know how it works for you!

  3. I will vouch for using Quicken to stay on top of finances, I’ve been using it since Windows 3.1 came out (was included free with the Win 3.1 package). I usually project bills, etc 4-6 weeks in advance, my credit score has been real high just about forever. I’m not normally very organized in my life, but I will say I haven’t had a late charge since I don’t know when. The downside of using Quicken is you have to stay on top of it, and log on anytime you do anything financial like use a credit card or write a check. If you do most of your transactions in cash, you can set up a cash account to track those, too.

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