Just because the Frown Town Express has left the station, it doesn’t mean that you can’t get back on the happy track immediately.
These small simple actions are sure to bring you from an emotional train wreck to a first class ride to paradise before you can say…
Here’s the ticket:
Psychologist Paul Ekman, a pioneer in his field, came up with this List of 6 Basic Emotions in 1972:
I don’t know about you, but I could add jealousy, rage, annoyed, pissed-off, sick of my dang job, sick of my dang life, and totally bummed out to the list. Also what is the emotion for having a “fat” day? Psychologists have not determined how many emotions a person can feel in one day, however, personal experience tells me, many! Another thing I know is that one negative situation can derail me from my current good mood.
Negative situations that can derail me from my current good mood:
- Grouchy customers
- Mean lady at the grocery store
- Long day at work
- Fight with spouse
- Physical pain
- Money problems
- Cut off in traffic
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it” ~Albert Einstein
I first learned about state changing as a crew member for the Tony Robbins “Unleash the Power Within” Seminars from 1993- 1995. In my opinion the state changing exercise was one of the most impressive of the entire seminar. (besides helping over 3000 people get the courage to walk across burning hot coals, of course.) You can read more about how changing your state can affect everything at: http://sourcesofinsight.com/how-to-change-any-experience-to-empower-you/. Tony would specify the three major modalities that drive us as Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic. He then would help us figure out which of these three drives you most. For me, I am kinesthetic first, auditory is a very close second and visual is last. I realized that by adjusting my posture, even just slightly, my mood can quickly elevate. If I took it a step further and jumped up and down like I won an Oscar, I would feel elated and excited and have tingles all over. On the contrary, if I gave in to my negative emotions and put on a pouty face and rolled up in bed like a big grouchy pooper, I would wallow in that mood for hours. That kind of behavior is a nesting ground for anxiety and disease (this post is not about anxiety, however, living with less stress is the back bone of my big and small lifestyle, so I will always mention it when appropriate).I realized that by focusing on your senses, you could actually change your state at any time. I learned through many sources and experiments, how to be the conductor of my own emotions.
I learned through many sources, and experiments, how to be the conductor of my own emotions.
I have formulated a simple, easy and highly effective set of actions using all three modalities that guarantee to lift your mood. I encourage you to get off your caboose and try them all! I think you can, I think you can….
1) Pump it. (audio) I made a playlist of Happy Tracks and play it when I need a dose of happy. It doesn’t matter if the music isn’t “cool” or hip. This is MY soundtrack and I am not embarrassed that “I Wanna Be Like You” from the Jungle Book is on my list. It’s all about feeling happy and anything goes, so feel free to dork out!
2) Fake it. (kinesthetic) I trick my emotions into thinking that I am happy by making my body feel the way it feels when it is happy. Bouncing or jumping on a mini-trampoline is a guaranteed state changer. I have one in my office, and I like to dance on it with my Happy Tracks. A giant bouncy ball is also a way to bring my spirits back to life. I can simply bounce around a few times to feel the effects. I am also known to call a dance party at times when I feel a state change is necessary. Remembering to keep my posture and language in positive positions also helps when a dance party would be an inappropriate suggestion, like at a funeral, for example. You can fake it until you make it, just put your body where your mood wants to be.
3) Check it. (visual) This one requires a short walk outside, and is very loosely inspired by Scientology teachings. I call it the “ Check it out Game.” I simply take a walk and look at things, but instead of looking the way I normally look, I look without having feelings, judgments or memories attached. I just find something to look at, let’s say a stop sign, and notice the shape, color, and small details like a dent or a scratch. Then I move on to something else, a mailbox perhaps or a tree. Much like meditation, you might have to gently stop the thoughts that normally arrive, and remember to just look and not think. This game gives my mind a break and a feeling of peace and calm. Then I go home and jump on my trampoline again!
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