The Fine Art of the Compliment

 

A Compliment Sits by the Wayside

A long time ago I had two best friends who were both getting married within a year and I was a bridesmaid in both weddings. Katie’s wedding was first, followed by Claudia’s. During a quiet moment in the dressing room before the ceremony I was spellbound by Claudia’s beauty and spoke as such. With tears in my eyes, I said to her sincerely, “Claudia, you are the most beautiful bride I have ever seen”. Her response to my compliment took me aback. “You said the same thing to Katie”. Allowing my words to ricochet off her, like I had just told her she looked a fright, hurt me and I did not understand why she did not accept my feelings in the moment.

 

If a compliment is given in the forest and nobody hears it, does it exist?

The Timber "Line" By Pippy Tolan

The Timber “Line” By Pippy Tolan

 

I have thought of this moment often as it made a big impact on me. That experience has affected the way that I receive and give compliments to this day. A compliment, when sincere, it is a true gift. Giving and receiving compliments should be a big deal and a big part of daily life. How we give and accept them can make all the difference in the way everyone feels in the exchange. The intent of the compliment can be lost in the way that it is accepted. I also thought about the delivery of the compliment. It would have been more genuine to choose my words more carefully and to articulate the way I was feeling in a more personal way, rather than saying the same thing to both brides.

 

The Complimenter

Do you give compliments freely or do you only compliment when something blows your mind? Do you compliment strangers? Do you compliment people in your life on a daily basis? This study shows how giving compliments in the workplace improves the performance of employees just as much as giving a cash reward http://www.forbes.com/sites/daviddisalvo/2012/11/09/study-receiving-a-compliment-has-same-positive-effect-as-receiving-cash/. Just think, compliments don’t cost you a dime and can make others feel great! I personally have made a point to compliment people in service. I will make a nice comment about a piece of clothing or jewelry that a cashier is wearing and tell my server how great the service was (do not trade a compliment for a great tip!). For some, complimenting is second nature and for others it just does not feel natural. I am going to go over the different types of Complimenters and how everyone can improve on their complimenting skills. 

The Inappropriate Complimenter

A compliment is supposed to be a gift to another person. If you are going to offend someone then it is no longer a gift. Just like with any conversation use your filter and make sure that the compliment is appropriate. Just because you have a burning desire to tell your friends wife that her new plastic surgery looks hot, your comment may not fly and you may want keep it to yourself. The point of the compliment is to make the other person feel good, not uncomfortable. The correct words and timing can also make the difference between a successful compliment and an insult. You don’t want to be punched in the nose for disrespecting someone!

The Over Complimenter

Do you know someone who just seems like they like everyone and everything? To me, their over complimenting seems insincere. If every time you are around this person the compliments pour over you like gravy and you feel uncomfortable and/or awkward then what they are actually doing is trying to flatter you. If this becomes droll, you can use the old “flattery will get you nowhere” response. They could be behaving this way because they really feel like you are the best thing since Post-It’s, or they are just simply an Over Complimenter and flattery is part of their social interactions. You are under no obligation to take this flattery as a gift.

The Backhanded Complimenter

A backhanded compliment, in my world, is just as good as an insult. This snide type of compliment comes from a negative place and is in no way meant to be taken for face value. Giving these types of compliments is a passive aggressive way to make a point, and should be addressed as such. Calling out a Backhanded Complimenter can be a gift in itself, as long as you don’t use a sarcastic backhanded compliment. An example of this would be, “You are really good at those backhanded compliments”. Now that’s something to think about. Another thing to think about is making sure that your compliment is sincere. Sarcasm has no place in a compliment.

The Fishing Complimenter

We all know that guy at the bar who throws out lines all night hoping for a bite. To the Fishing Complimener it’s a numbers game. Pick up lines like “Is your Daddy a baker? Because you sure have nice buns!” does not seem like a sincere compliment to me. A whistle from a construction worker was not a gift to me until I turned 45. When I was younger those kinds of gestures offended me. Nowadays I secretly say to myself “Yep, I’ve still got it”. It’s all up to the interpretation of the receiver. Hopefully, we receive enough real compliments that we can tell the fisherman to cast off.

 

Notes for Good Complimenting:

  • Compliment someone everyday – there is something nice to say at least once a day. Complimenting at least once a day can lift the spirits of the people around you and keep you looking for the good in people.
  • People remember your compliments – People remember most of the compliments that they have ever received. A good compliment can mean the difference between a good day and a great day. Just like memories, you remember the good and bad times but not the mediocre. Your compliment may last a lifetime. Create good memories for people with honest, sincere compliments!
  • If you can’t think of something nice to say, write it – You can text it, e-mail it or let a card say it for you. Constructing a “Let me count the ways…” letter is a nice idea for anyone in your life who you admire. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will become giving away these free gifts.

 

A compliment not properly received is like a present left unopened. ~ Pippy

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The Complimentee

How do you accept compliments? Do you light up, smile and give a big “thank you?” Do real, sincere compliments make you uncomfortable? It is very important to learn how to accept compliments properly. It’s better to give than to receive so they say, but if not properly received the gift remains unopened. If someone goes out of their way to give a sincere compliment then it is the complimentee’s responsibility to accept it properly with thanks and grace. How you receive compliments can be a reflection of your self-esteem and self worth. If you do not feel good about receiving compliments, you are more apt to keep negative people around you. You will tend to push the people who love and praise you away because you do not believe their positive words about you. They will stop giving you praise because you have resisted it and they may even stop giving praise to others because of the fear of rejection. A compliment is a true gift from the heart and it’s up to you if you want to keep receiving these gifts. The more you let these words in the more you will begin to realize that they are true and you are worthy of these treasures.

 

Notes on Being a Good Complimentee:

  • Say Thank You – By appreciating the compliment you are encouraging the Complimenter to continue complimenting.
  • Don’t Cut it Short – When someone is singing your praise, hear them out. Their good opinion of you deserves to be heard.
  • Count your Compliments – When practicing gratitude, you can throw in your compliments along with everything else you are thankful for. You should be very thankful that people think so highly of you. Be thankful for the Complimenter as well for making sure they told you how they feel.
  • Don’t Fish – When fishing for compliments you will appear needy. Do you really want a compliment that you had to ask for? Know your worth. Surround yourself with people that you don’t have to coax to admire you.
  • You Decide – You don’t have to be thankful for unwanted flattery or creepy comments. It’s completely up to you to choose which compliments are gifts you will cherish and which you will not accept. Speak up if someone is making you uncomfortable.
  • Compliment it Forward – You get back what you give to the world. If you give compliments then you encourage this practice and yes, it will come back to you!

The Compliment Bucket

I was given a decorated shoebox from a young friend many years ago that was adorned with positive affirmations about me. This twelve year old knew that I was feeling very low about a break-up. I was devastated and wondered what was wrong with me. She told me that whenever anyone gave me a kind note or card to put it in the box and to open the box and start reading anytime I felt unhappy. I went even further and wrote compliments down that were given to me verbally and put those in the box as well. This shoebox was one of the nicest gifts I have ever received. Since then I have scanned all of my notes and words and have made what I now call a “Compliment Bucket” that I add to anytime I receive kind words from people. Whenever I feel blue, or low about myself I go through my compliments. Remembering how people have valued me through my life helps me with the biggest compliment of all, being able to look in the mirror and compliment myself!

 

Big Compliments Take Small Effort

Saying something nice is easy and it can mean the world to someone. Hearing something nice is a gift to be received with thanks, grace and love. Love one another. Tell each other how much you value them or enjoy their spaghetti sauce. Compliments Big and Small go a long, long way.

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My Fabulous Grandma June on her Wedding Day!

Planning For a Fabulous Future

Let’s face it, some of us just don’t think much about what it’s going to be like when we get older. Many of us would rather live it up now and worry about the consequences later. We are smart enough to know that the day will come when a doctor will tell us that we have to stop doing something that we enjoy like drinking, smoking, eating fried foods or scuba diving and we intend on doing these things until the bitter end. Some of do think about the consequences of our actions and have already taken great measures by limiting or avoiding things that we know are bad for us. We also do positive things such as use sunscreen to keep our skin as young as possible and eat cancer fighting foods to avoid disease. No matter how we look at it, planning for old age is something that we should do to ensure the most fabulous future possible.

Pre-Fab Verses Re-Hab

When I am taking care of a pre-existing condition I call it re-hab. An example of a re-hab activity for me would be doing floor exercises for my back, which was injured. When I am taking measures to prevent a condition from occurring I call it Pre-Fab. An example of a Pre-Fab activity for me would be meditating to keep my mind clear and healthy.

I Am Not a Doctor; But I Played a Nurse on TV

My ideas for keeping myself healthy and preventing conditions and diseases are my opinion and in no way take the place of professional advice from your health care provider. Health and nutrition is a personal hobby and my ideas are just that, ideas. Please take my ideas with a grain of salt and do the research yourself. Just because I played a nurse on NBC’s cancelled Soap Opera, “Passions”, does not mean that I studied medicine. Pre-Fab is my made up word for keeping yourself fabulous – for as long as possible.

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On the set of the Soap Opera, “Passions”.

My Pre Pre-Fab Days

My husband and I were in a car accident in 2011 where a drunk driver plowed right into us while we were stopped at a red light. We suffered many injuries in that crash including herniated discs in both our necks and backs. The pain and discomfort from the accident caused a lot of anguish for us. The pain I was in started to control my life and after a few years of pain medicines, chiropractors and complaining I decided to take matters into my own hands. With the advice from a girlfriend (Thanks Amanda!) I started stretching every day and later adding floor exercises to my routine. I was getting married in 2014 and my goal was to have a pain-free wedding. I had some special medicines (steroids-yuck!) on hand from my doctor just in case and when the time came I didn’t even need them! I worked so hard on my own that I walked down the aisle pain free! I was so impressed with myself that I thought that instead of only doing re-hab for things that were already bothering me, I would also start “Pre-Fabbing” myself! Old age is hopefully in all of our futures. I mean, it’s better than the alternative! Why not make middle age and old age a healthier and happier time? I also believe that by doing Pre-Fab’s we can avoid injuries or lessen the severity of new ones. I decided instead of waiting for something to happen and treat the condition in a reactive way (re-hab) I would research things that could happen and try to prevent them from starting altogether in a proactive way (Pre-Fab). The first thing I did was to make a list of my existing ailments. Next, I looked at my family and genetic make-up for things that I have a pre-disposition for. Lastly, I researched and found the most common ailments that happen during the aging process. Doing Pre-Fabs gives me the opportunity to possibly deter unwanted conditions before they happen. I truly believe that these things cannot hurt and again, seek professional help for any serious health conditions.

You do not need to become old to reap the benefits of a Pre-Fab lifestyle. The benefits, whether you feel them or not, begin immediately!

 

My Current Issues (Pre-Existing):

Plantar Fasciitis – An inflammation of a thick band of tissue that connects the heel bone to the toes. I manage my pain with stretching, massaging, icing and proper footware. No more heels for me!

Herniated Disc – A condition that refers to a problem with a rubbery disc between the spinal bones. I manage this pain with stretching, floor exercises, ball exercises, traction, massages and heat & cold therapy. I also cannot stay in one position for long so I listen to my body and stay as active as possible. I am looking forward to hanging upside down on my indoor yoga trapeze (we still need to hang it up) to get some traction for my lower back!

Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS) – I call this Restless “Limb” Syndrome as it affects my arms and my legs. Since I quit smoking my symptoms have improved dramatically. I find that getting adequate sleep, enough iron, magnesium and vitamin B-12 helps reduce my symptoms. I also find that regular exercises and soaking in cool water before bed are also helpful in keeping my RLS away. Swimming before bed is very effective as it also helps me with inflammation in my body.

Things for Which I Have a Pre-Disposition For:

Osteoporosis: A condition in which bones become porous, easily shatter and can rob us of our independence as we age. My Mother has started to have degenerative bone loss so I have been looking into how to protect myself. Taking calcium supplements and eating calcium fortified foods was what I did in the past to help prevent Osteoporosis. Current studies have been making me dig a little deeper into this subject. I have found that like so many other nutrients, calcium needs cofactors (other vitamins and minerals) to be absorbed. Without these, calcium supplements are not bioavailable and may even be harmful. A 2012 study published in the British Medical Journal showed that those who took calcium supplements had a 139% higher risk of heart attack, though this increased risk was not present when the same amount of calcium was consumed from whole food sources. I have included a link to the study here. I am eating calcium rich foods such as canned fish with bones (here is a link on how to enjoy fish with bones), bok choy, broccoli, beans and almonds. For proper absorption I am making sure that I am combining these foods with potassium, magnesium, vitamin k, vitamin c and vitamin d (half an hour a day in the direct sunlight.) Read what Dr. Weil says about how sunlight is the best source of vitamin d. Again, quitting smoking is also a good preventative measure.

Read about the Harvard study that talks about how eating dairy does not do a body good.

Arthritis: Inflammation of one or more joints causing pain and stiffness that can worsen with age. My Mother has early stages of arthritis and has suffered from Carpal Tunnel Syndrome. Hand health is a big deal to me. If your hands do not work, you cannot do things for yourself. You cannot feed yourself, open a door, or brush your hair or teeth if your hands stopped working. A friend of mine in the medical field told me nightmare stories of how older people’s hands get curled up and it was her job to pry them open. She said it was extremely painful and she warned me to always try to keep my hands open, especially when sleeping. I now sleep with Jazz hands! To start, I slept with a balled up sock in each hand to avoid closing them. Eventually I was able to lose the socks. I also stretch my fingers and hands and talk (or bribe!) my husband into regular hand massages, pressing on the area between the thumb and forefinger to relieve tension. I also have a wonderful Brookstone Handheld Massager that I use if I cannot talk Smiley into the massage!  This is something I can use on my back, arms, legs and feet as well. I have just started doing these hand exercises as recommended by Harvard Health. Hand exercises can be done anywhere! More Pre-Fab’s for arthritis are eating right and resistance training (strengthening muscles so that your joints don’t have to do all the work). Some studies say one alcoholic drink per day may help to prevent arthritis in women, two drinks per day for men. Bottoms up!

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Osteoarthritis: A condition that occurs when the cartilage covering the ends of the bones, where they meet to form joints, breaks down. This causes the bones of the joint to rub together. Growths of bone, called spurs, may form around the joint. These changes lead to pain and stiffness. You guessed it, my Mother had her hip replaced at the young age of 65 and I have pain in one of my hips and knees as well. To maintain my joint function I take Glucosamine daily. This works as an anti-inflammatory. I also consume Omega-3 fats in my diet. I do resistance training to build muscles to help out the joints and stretch almost every day as part of my Morning Ritual. I listen to my body and don’t “over do it”. I avoid squatting and kneeling, opting to sit on the floor or ground crossed legged. I may have a dirty fanny, but it sure saves my knees! Good supportive shoes can also help a lot to absorb shock. It is important to spend time and money on the correct footwear.  I am loving my new Sketchers with Memory Foam!

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List of Things That Happen to Many People When They Age

Cancer: A disease in which abnormal cells divide uncontrollably and destroy body tissue. “As many as 70% of known causes of cancers are avoidable and related to lifestyle,” says Thomas A. Sellers, PhD, and Associate Director for Cancer Prevention and Control at Moffitt Cancer Center in Tampa. My Pre-Fab plan on preventing cancer includes not smoking, (I am two years free!) as lung cancer is the number one killer among cancers. I also choose my meals using the ingredients from these cancer-preventing foods according to David Servan-Schreiber’s book “Anticancer- A New Way of Life”. There is a list of the 15 cancer preventing foods from the book on one of my FAVORITE simple recipe food blogs, Stone Soup.  In the book there are interesting studies, one of note was about preventing prostate cancer in men based on food choices. Keeping a healthy body weight is also part of my Pre-Fab plan for reducing the risk of Cancer and many other health issues.  Maintaining a healthy body weight is one of the most important things we can do for our health.  Most of my drinking water comes from my Berkey Water Filtration System to reduce my exposure to known or suspected carcinogens and hormone-disrupting chemicals. I also try to avoid BPA’s from plastics found in water bottles by carrying a glass water bottle when I leave the house and by using a non BPA shower curtain. I also buy and eat organic foods when possible.

Cardiovascular Disease: Heart conditions that include diseased vessels, structural problems and blood clots. I Pre-Fab by keeping my blood pressure low by eating healthy foods and getting regular exercise, again focusing on keeping a healthy weight.  I currently enjoy Pre-Fabbing with dark chocolate and red wine a few evenings a week. The jury is out on this one, but until then I will choose these in moderation and over other proven unhealthy heart treats like processed, store-bought cookies.

Teeth: Cavities, Dry Mouth, Gum Disease and Mouth Cancer can all be threats to our aging mouths. The good news is that things are looking up from the days when it was a given that all old people lost their teeth and dentures were just a part of life. Today only 25% of the elderly have dentures. This means brushing, flossing, using a Waterpik and regular visits to the dentist are important factors in keeping a healthy smile for life! Also using a straw (glass or silicone) when drinking enamel erasers, such as lemon juice, will keep my teeth smooth. Practicing good oral hygiene is a Pre-Fab no brainer each day!

Memory Loss: Though memory loss generally occurs with dementia, memory loss alone doesn’t mean you have dementia. There is a certain extent of memory loss that is a normal part of aging. Alzheimer’s disease is the most common cause of progressive dementia. This is a big one for me, as I am now working with people with Alzheimer’s and I have been researching “head health” for some time now. One of my Pre-Fab’s for mental health is to avoid multitasking. Studies show that high multitaskers had less brain density in the Anterior Cingulate Cortex (a region responsible for empathy as well as cognitive and emotional control). Also read how multitasking hurts your brain and effectiveness here. I also give my brain breaks by spending time meditating, staring into space or quietly observing nature. I have a super busy brain that is always chattering away so I take the time to shut that chatter off. I also practice the “Six Pillars of a Brain-Healthy Lifestyle”.  According to www.helpguide.org, there are six things you can do to help keep your brain healthy and to help prevent dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.

Six Pillars of a Brain-Healthy Lifestyle

1) Regular Exercise

2) Healthy Diet

3) Mental Stimulation

4) Quality Sleep

5) Stress Management

6) An Active Social Life

As you get older three things happen. The first is your memory goes, and I can’t remember the other two. ~ Norman Wisdom

Vision: As we age there is a higher risk of developing age-related eye diseases and conditions. These include: Macular Degeneration, Cataract, Diabetic Eye Disease, Glaucoma, Low Vision and Dry Eye. Believe it or not, quitting smoking was the best thing I could have done to prevent many of these unwanted conditions. Research has found that smokers have double the risk of developing cataracts compared to non-smokers.

Hearing: Presbycusis or age-related hearing loss occurs in most of us as we grow older. It is one of the most common conditions affecting older adults. Most older people have a combination of both age-related hearing loss and noise-induced hearing loss. There are no known Pre-Fabs to guard against age-related hearing loss, however, noise-induced hearing loss can be avoided. I choose not to wear ear buds or keep them at a very low level as they can contribute to hearing loss. A major change I have made is to use a set of very good earplugs (Downbeats) when listening to loud music at a concert, festival, club or even at home. They remove the high decibels that cause ear ringing and damage, but still let the quality of the music in.

So what to do if you want to preserve what hearing you may have left? If you are going to use earbuds, the American Auditory Society’s rule of thumb is 60/60 — to not listen for more than 60 minutes at a time at 60 percent of the maximum volume.

Summing Up the Pre-Fabulousness

As you can see, many Pre-Fabs can be used for multiple things. Here are some that cover more than one condition.

  • Stop smoking – You simply can’t be healthy and smoke.
  • Maintain a healthy weight – Extra weight slips up on us as we age. Losing 10 pounds and keeping it off can ward off many health conditions.
  • Practice yoga – This triple-threat covers relaxing, stretching and builds muscles!
  • Eating right – Dark green leafies, Omega 3 oil and organic foods when possible.
  • A glass of red wine a night – Not a bottle! Possibly good for heart health and relaxation.
  • Plenty of Sleep – Get your optimum amount hours of sleep for most adults (7.5-9 hours)
  • Listen to body signals and don’t over do it – Being a “weekend warrior” can cause injury.
  • Correct footwear – Address any foot conditions accordingly. Spend time and money choosing the correct shoes and/or inserts. Comfort shoes are not always the best choice.  Read about finding the support you need here. Foot problems can lead to many other problems from the ankles all the way up to your neck! It’s all connected.
  • Swimming – Another triple threat. Swimming helps to build muscles, can keep your weight down and act as an anti-inflammatory if the water is cool enough.

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Start Your Day Your Way

 

You Lose if you Choose to Snooze

 

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I used to stay in bed until the last possible second. I touched my snooze button more times a day than I touched my husband. Hearing the alarm was the most painful thing that happened to me all day. No, I am not a morning person.
After my first word of the day starting with an “f” or an “s” was mumbled through my hoarse throat, I would start the coffee, run out for a smoke, (I have been a non-smoker for two years!) and then make a total mess of my closet deciding what to wear. Following that cyclone I would toss food down for Bongo, fill my to-go cup with coffee and leave the house, typically late. I would arrive at work a harried and frazzled mess, without any lunch and without my coffee because I left it on the roof of my car, once again. No wonder I hit the snooze button so many times, I only had my own chaos to wake up to!
This rushed behavior set the precedent for my entire day, heck, my entire life! I would not remember until we were on our way to a birthday dinner that we forgot a gift or card and would need to rush into the drug store and sign the card in the car. Or my potluck dish would be something I picked up on the way to a party. I also drove too fast and carried a lot of stress around with me upon arrival to wherever I was going. My morning behavior lasted throughout the day and became a part of who I was.
My friends and my family would make jokes about me being late and unorganized. They would say it with love following it up with it being a part of my zany or quirky personality. I did not want to be labeled this way and I was getting tired of always being stressed out. I was looking for peace. I wanted to relax more, be chilled out and be on time. I did not want to be known as an undependable person. I did not want to be a spaz anymore!
What I did for myself was create a way to start my day doing things I enjoy so that I actually wanted to get up when I heard the alarm. I created my own “Morning Rituals”. To have time for this I had to get up earlier. Getting eight hours of sleep for me is a “non-neg” (non-negotiable) so going to bed one hour earlier was where I started. This was not easy at all, and honestly, I was still hitting snooze the first few days. Did I mention that I am not a morning person? It was also hard to put myself down earlier, so I unwound with a warm bath/meditation and a sniff of lavender essential oil right before lights out. This did the trick! I was able to start falling asleep in minutes.
I wanted to start my day with things that I would look forward to waking up to. I started this almost two years ago and it is now a non-neg. My Morning Rituals have changed who I am. I am more organized and decisive. I am more calm and relaxed. My confidence has boosted. I am more thoughtful. I am on time with time to spare! I am also enjoying the benefits of feeling healthier, more flexible, and more creative. Through the last 23 months my Morning Rituals have morphed. I have a mini version and even a two hour version if I really want to take care of myself. I am so excited to share my current Morning Rituals!

 

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Pippy’s Morning Rituals
In Bed:
• Turn off alarm and turn on Enya on Pandora on my phone. Sniff lemon or orange essential oils that are on my nightside table.
• Do 8x8x8 breathing exercises (in through nose for a count of 8, hold for 8, out for 8, repeat 8 times)
• Stretch. Yes in BED! Then onto exercise matt on the floor at bedside to finish routine
Up:
• Read my Mantra (strategically taped opposite my toilet!) followed by being grateful for three things.
Prepare:
• Cleansing Drink (juice of 1/2 lemon, 1 tbs apple cider vinegar in warm water, using a straw to protect teeth)
• Breakfast and supplements for Bongo
Chill:
• Outside with Bongo with my drink, stare into space (for real)
Write:
• Three pages in longhand for my Morning Pages The Artist’s Way Starter Kit
Walk:
• Take a short walk with Bongo. Set intentions for my day
Jump:
• On my mini-trampoline to my Happy Tracks from my previous post “Climb Aboard for the State Changing Ride of Your Life”

Improper breathing is a common cause of ill health. If I had to limit my advice on healthier living to just one tip, it would be simply to learn how to breathe correctly. There is no single more powerful – or more simple – daily practice to further your health and well being than breathwork. ~Andrew Weil, M.D.

Because YOU Have to Come First
Your Morning Rituals can start small with even just one ritual and can grow to be as big as you like. You can try setting your alarm 10 minutes early and just pick one activity and see how it feels. Taking a slow approach to this radical life change makes it more likely to stick. Taking care of YOU first every day will make you your best for everything and everyone else you will encounter throughout the day. Everyone can benefit from having their own Morning Rituals and I have included some other ideas that may inspire you to start your day in an amazing way!
Here are some ideas that you may want to include in your Morning Rituals:
• Draw or paint
• Light Exercise
• Sing in shower
• Listen to favorite music
• Have a dance party USA
• Practice yoga
• Watch sunrise
• Couples stretching
• Nature walk in your yard or neighborhood
• Tai Chi
• Walk on beach
• Write or read poetry
• Feed the birds
• A warm bath
• Light a candle
• Read the funnies
Don’t be tempted to plug in.  You should not include housework, checking messages or e-mails in your Morning Rituals. These are things that you can get to later. You can keep it simple and just pick one single thing to do upon wake up that makes you feel good. You can do a different thing each day and switch it up or keep it as a routine that you stick to. The point is to set your intentions for your day. Take this time for yourself, your e-mails and conference calls will be there when you are done. Starting your day doing what you want to do will help you be who you want to be, all day long.

Take control of how you start your day. Don’t let your day control you. ~ Jason Sadler (the guy who made a million dollars wearing t-shirts)

 

My Morning Mantra (in case you were curious)

“Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.” ~ Dalai Lama

 

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